My heart pains & bleed for the seventeen yr old girl from Cork,Ireland who took away her life because her rapist was set free and she was humiliated in the court..her rapist was found not guilty by the jury because they paid more attention to what she was wearing than to what she was saying. Her underwear was consider as an evidence “of consent” by the defending lawyer & jury because she was wearing a lace underwear & not a normal one. Jury in their verdict said ” It’s very important to see what the girl was wearing.” What an irony?? The way she dress up & the type of underwear she wears will be term as her consent but her words will not be given any value.
Respected jury & barrister of the rapist you should understand one thing: wearing a lace underwear or not wearing an underwear at all, wearing short dresses or walking naked down the street, being a prostitute or being your wife..nothing of these should be consider as a ‘consent’… you are not allowed to disrupt her intimate space just because you feel like that it’s a consent….
‘NO’ is not a consent..’Wait’ is not a consent..’Stop’ is not a consent..’Please’ is not a consent..when she says “YES! I m ready for this intimate moment between us” that’s what a consent is. Be it men or be it women stop judging a rape victim by “what she wears” or “how she wears”.
Daughters of the barrister (of the accused) & jury should be very careful in their homes because you never know if they saw their daughters wearing a laced underwear or walking naked in their room or bathroom, they may attack their own daughters or may sold them off in a brothel because according to them that counts as an ” invitation” & “consent”.
We are in 2018 : in an advanced & technological world & still girls are being characterize & judge according to their dresses..
“Narrow minded” society or I say “Men dominated” society won’t change this set of minds but we “females” can.. “Feminist” does not only mean getting a seat in the bus or getting ahead in a queue. It means standing with each other against this poisonous thinking. The movement that has been started should not be stopped just after this case, it need to be in constant action & very much in debate..If we need a better society, better world for ourselves and our daughters then we must be the change & we must bring the change.
It’s high time that “women” take responsibility of their own safety & of their own “JUSTICE”